Congratulations!Here’s to a long and wonderful marriage.
Ahh, but first, the wedding reception.
The wedding itself is not typically the part that people struggle with, it’s the wedding reception.
Where to have it?
How many people?
Can I invite someone to the wedding and not the reception?
Should I have alcohol? Open bar?
And what about the seating chart?
Questions, questions, questions.
1) Where to have the wedding reception?
You have two choices of how to start: Fit the people to the room or fit the room to the people.
If there is someplace that you must have your wedding reception, then the number of people will be governed by the capacity of the room. Ask the banquet manager, restaurant manager, or banquet sales person what the room can hold comfortably. Comfortably is huge; there is no sense in having 60 extra people unless you really don’t want anyone getting up.
If, on the other hand, you don’t care where you have your reception, then you can simply make your list and find places that will hold that many people. Once you have made those calls, you will have a clearer sense of how much it will cost per person and if you can afford it.
2) How will we get the food to the people?
Always one of the great debates: should you have a buffet that everyone goes to or should you have a plated dinner?
Most professionals will tell you, if they are being honest, that buffets are better. You will get more bang for your buck, there is almost certainly something for everyone, and you won’t have a room full of servers dancing around.
Plated, individual plates served to each person, has the elegance of feeling and usually being expensive, but it also has the hassle of figuring out food preferences, food allergies, etc. It can be very nice, but most of your guests will not mind a buffet.
A middle point is to do family style service, have plates of food set down at each table that
are then passed around. This is very good for a room that is very tight, not a lot of walking room. People can have as much of whatever they want, but they don’t have to go the buffet to get it.
In the end, you will need to choose based on your budget and the feel that you would like you reception to have. None of these styles, if done by professionals, should ever feel “cheap” or “skimpy.”
3) Alcohol: To Drink or Not to Drink
This can be a very simple answer for certain people.
If your religious beliefs prevent drinking, then there is no alcohol. You should make this event for you, not for your guests. If you are not allowed to drink for religious reasons, then don’t have alcohol and don’t apologize for it. This is your event.
If you don’t drink, don’t have a bar. This is YOUR day. Why pay for something you can’t enjoy or choose not to. It won’t kill people to party one night sober.
Note of honesty: Alcohol is a very high profit item. Don’t let yourself be pressured into having a bar if you don’t want to.
If you are having a morning or afternoon reception, maybe mimosas or wine, but a full bar is not a great idea.
Then there are all of the possibilities of what kind of bar to have:
Open bar: free-flowing alcohol all night – This was the norm until the nineties when money and lawyers stepped into the aftermath of some wedding receptions. In most cases, an all-night open bar is not a great idea. It’s expensive and the liability issues could be huge.
Limited time open bar: an open bar for a few hours – Usually at the beginning of a reception, the bar will close after an hour or two. This is a great way to start a reception and keep the money down, but there will always be group that will stack drinks or power drink. Also, since everyone has alcohol at the beginning of the reception, they tend to get tired earlier in the evening, when the buzz wears off.
Beer and wine bar: An open bar with only beer and wine – This is a great idea if you have a mature drinking crowd. Most people drink less when there is no hard liquor around, but it allows folks to have a drink. This might not be great for a more college age crowd. Drinking can become a contest.
A champagne toast: One round of champagne to toast the bride and groom – Unless you are religiously restricted against alcohol, this is almost a must. It doesn’t have to be expensive champagne (most people wouldn’t know Cristal anyway), but make sure there is lots of sparkling cider for those who don’t drink alcohol.
Continued in Part 2



















